Can You Believe That Sad Songs Actually Make Us Happy? See What Science Explains!

Most of us have tendency to avoid sad songs and music when we feel particularly down since we believe that it will make us feel even worse.

For most people, post-breakup behavior usually includes actually listening to a lot of sad songs whose music and lyrics speak of our woe in order to make us feel even worse and get all the sadness out as soon as possible. Yet, seems that we all had it wrong all along. Science proves the opposite is true – sad music actually makes us happier and improves our mental health. Here’s how.

Songs are sad but they bring positivity to our brain!

Similarly to the case of a musical device called appoggiatura found in a number of sad songs, such as Adele’s “Someone Like You”, there is a scientific explanation to why sad music actually makes us happy. David Huron, a professor of arts and humanities in the School of Music and the Center for Cognitive Science at the Ohio State University, has been studying the effects of sad music on people. During earlier studies, he has found that certain groups of people are more likely to listen to sad music – people with openness, experiences, and people who score high on neuroticism tests. According to Huron, the hormone prolactin is responsible for positive impact that sad music has on our feelings.

So What does sad song does to our brain?

Prolactin, mostly known as the hormone that causes lactation in breastfeeding women, is also being released during times of great grief. During great sorrow, our bodies produce the hormone as a natural soother to ease the process and help us cope easier. Similarly, as we are listening to sad songs, our body sends out a similar signal, which results in the production of prolactin. Therefore, as we listen to sad songs, we actually trick our body into creating a pleasant environment and happier feelings. “It’s as though Mother Nature has stepped in and said, ‘We don’t want the grief to get too exorbitant,'” Huron explains in an interview with The National.

So, no matter if you listen to sad music when you are feeling sad, or just because you like the feeling, now you have the scientific explanation of why you enjoy Adele’s music so much.

A list of songs You Can Listen to

1. “Since U Been Gone,” Kelly Clarkson
2. “Hello“, Adele
3. “Irreplaceable,” Beyoncé
4. “Cry Me a River,” Justin Timberlake
5. “Someone Like You,” Adele
6. “I Knew You Were Trouble,” Taylor Swift
7. “Because of you“, Kelly Clarkson
8. “The Heart Wants What It Wants” Selena Gomez
9. “A Million Reasons“, Lady Gaga
10. “Echoes of Silence,” The Weeknd

What Makes Some People More Attractive To The Opposite Sex? Science Gives The Answer!

Have you ever wondered why you are attracted to a specific person or if there were certain biological features that were more important than others? Well it turns out that beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder. In fact, there are different anthropometric traits we associate with an individual’s attractiveness. Science has uncovered distinguishing features that determine attractiveness. However, there is no need to worry if you lack these features as there are proven hacks we can use to improve our attractiveness. Let’s take a look at the scientific features that we are attracted to and what we can do to hack them.

We are unconsciously attracted to the shape of the human body.

Studies identify that men and women with symmetrical bodies have more orgasms. Science has discovered that we are attracted to the face more than any other part of the body; specifically, the symmetry of the face. A symmetrical face will be equal on both sides and demonstrates phenomenal genes. When we analyze the body of the opposite sex, we look for ideal body ratios. Men prefer a waist-to-hip ratio of 7:10. In contrast, women prefer a man with a 9:10 waist-to-hip ratio.

Let’s face it (pun intended), a youthful, proportional, and symmetrical face is ideal and attractive. There are specific exercises you can do in order to improve the symmetry of your face. These include the following: cheek toning exercise, the partial wink, and the facial stretch.

Furthermore, fix your posture. It seems as though everyone I come across has horrible posture. Here are some quick tips in fixing you posture: 1) Wear a posture belt; 2) Hold your cell phone at eyel level; 3) Use a standing workstation at the office; and 4) Simply stand up straight.

We are attracted to the voice of a person.

What type of voice are you attracted to? What if I told you that men prefer women with a high (breathy) voice? Well, we do. As women age, their voice will get lower and a high voice represents a younger woman. Whereas, a female is attracted to the voice of a man proportional to his body size – preferably a large body size that signifies a low pitch.

Fortunately, we can improve the sound of our voice. Preston Ni provides four suggestions for improving our voice: 1) Breathe right; 2) Make sounds based on diaphragmatic breathing; 3) Take a singing or acting class; and 4) Work with a private voice coach.

Our ring finger is linked to sperm count.

This one is a little shocking. Our fingers reveal a wide spectrum of information about us. John Manning writes in his intriguing book, Digit Ratio: A Pointer to Fertility, Behavior and Health, “The ratio of the length between the ring and index finger is somewhat sexually dimorphic. The fingers may provide permanent, and easily visible, historic marker of hormones, particularly testosterone.” Manning also commented on our hands and how they may infer whether we are more likely to have homosexual inclinations, if we are highly fertile or not, or even if we may eventually suffer from a heart attack. Crazy stuff!

I encourage you to check out Manning’s book, specifically the table identifying the characteristics associated with the digit ratio. You just might be able to determine if you are more aggressive, more fertile, or if you have a greater proclivity toward homosexuality just by looking at your fingers!

Long-distance runners are more attractive.

Research has uncovered that long-distance runners will have greater levels of testosterone. In fact, male long-distance runners have optimal genes. They are also in much better shape than everyone else. To rub it in even more, male long-distance runners are more likely to have raging sex drives and larger sperm counts.

Men and women who exercise are also more likely to be more intelligent. Exercise is the optimal vehicle for stimulating neurogenesis. Neurogenesis is the birth of new neurons (otherwise known as brain cells). So, get off your butt and go for a long run. This will not only make you more intelligent and fit, it will also increase your libido!

Lastly, men and women looking for the optimal partner will look for these qualities. By possessing them, you will more than likely attract a similar partner and continue to improve the gene pool. Remember, continuously improve your body, work on your voice, get in peak physical condition, and pay attention to your fingers.

8 Highly Attractive Things In Women (That Have Nothing to Do With Appearance)

I’ve been helping men improve their love lives for years now. I’ve probably read dozens of articles on what women find attractive in men. I’ve even written a few of them. The funny thing is, I rarely come across articles that touch on what men find attractive in a woman. Is the modern dating game so lopsided that it’s enough for a woman to just ‘show up’, or do we men stumble merely at the sight of a nice head of hair and a shapely body?

I won’t deny the fact that this is true for a lot of men out there, but there’s a little more needed to really attract a man who isn’t impressed with mere ‘good looks’?

Now, I can’t speak for the entire population here, but here are eight things that I, personally, find incredibly attractive in a woman.

1. Kindness

This might sound like a bit of a cliché, but true kindness really is rare these days. Sure, you get people who are nice to those who hold some sort of value to them, but how many people do you meet every day that would go and talk to the lone stranger crying in the subway? I don’t want to be with a person that’s just nice to me, my friends, and my family. I want a person who can brighten up my day by brightening up the lives of everyone she comes in contact with.

You have a power to lighten someone’s day just by smiling to them. It’s worth using it often, also to become more attractive in men’s eyes. Studies from the University of British Columbia show that men are attracted to smiling women. A natural smile conveys messages like optimism and stability, which are definitely qualities desired in a mate.

2. Positivity and sense of humor

“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority.”

One of the most important things in any relationship, romantic or otherwise, is the ability to have a great time and have a good laugh. Taking care of your emotional hygiene and good mood should be your priority. Only then you can take life positive, light, and with a fair dose of humor. While I never hold any significant other to a comic standard of say, Ellen Degeneres, I do love a woman who can live life one day at a time, take a joke, and crack a few of her own.

3. Passion

This might sound like a tall ask to some, but I’m a person who needs to be inspired constantly to be happy. To me, there’s no feeling in this world as attractive as being inspired by a woman who’s passionate about her pursuits in life.

You could be a world class pianist or you could be doctor, the minute I see your eyes light up while talking about what you want to achieve in life, I guarantee you I’ll be falling hard and fast. You cannot get bored together, because there is always a topic to talk about with a girl who is passionate about something.

4. Getting along with my friends

A friend once told me an old Chinese saying of a man that has a wife who gets along with his friends will have a long and pleasant life. Well, I have a feeling that my friend might be lying about there being an actual saying; however, I have to say that it really is a beautiful thing to be with a woman who can get along with your buddies and just be ‘one of the guys’ when she wants to.

5. Confidence

“Nothing is more beautiful than a confident woman who doesn’t pretend to be someone she’s not.”

I don’t know about you, but I like being around people who are happy to be themselves. You see, it’s not just women who respond powerfully to a confident partner, I love being with a woman who stands up for herself and what she believes in; as long as it’s not an opinion against my sports team or favorite band. Ha! Just kidding. I would never date a girl who didn’t love Iron Maiden.

6. Being comfortable with her sexuality

There’s a lot to be said on what’s sexy and, more specifically, on what makes a woman sexy. To me, what matters is not what a girl wears beneath the sheets or what she’s into, it’s the fact that she’s comfortable with her own sexuality and aware of her sexual energy. Romance is just so much more fun with a woman who knows what she’s into and isn’t abashed about it.

Your sexuality is a big part of your human nature. The sooner you embrace this side, the better and more attractive partner you become.

7. Decisiveness

“A girl should be two things: who & what she wants.”

One of my biggest pet peeves is people who don’t know what they want and can’t take responsibility for their own decisions. At the end of the day, I’m willing to battle through a few arguments on where we should have dinner or which movie we should watch, as long as I know that I’m with a person who’s strong enough to be decisive.

8. She has her own sense of style

Here’s the thing: we men are very much visual creatures. It’s just how we’re evolutionary programmed. Something that I absolutely love in a woman is a unique sense of style. I’ll admit that I tend to gravitate towards certain stereotypes – bohemian Goth with a fair share of body ink (in case you’re wondering). I fall in love whenever I see a woman who has a sense of style that I don’t get to see on every street corner.

48 Pickup Lines for Guys (The Best Backhanded Openers)

Pickup Lines for Guys

Pickup lines for guys come in all shapes and sizes. Choose the wrong pickup line and you’re just another schmuck. Choose the right type of pick-up line and you’ll be going home with your pick of the proverbial litter.

Funny Pickup Lines – Complimenting a Woman

Complimenting a woman is the classic way it’s done. But when everything other guy is doing it, you have to stand out from the crowd. So be original and be funny. Don’t tell her “You’re soooooo beautiful!” or “Your eyes are so pretty”. She’s heard all that before. Make her laugh and you’ll get her attention.

1. Damn – and I thought I was good-looking.
2. Thank you for being so perfect.
3. Did you realize you were the most beautiful woman here?
4. Mother Nature has been very…generous to you.
5. You get better-looking every day.
6. You should be someone’s wife.
7. I’m writing a telephone book. Can I get your number?
8. If I were a pirate, you would be my booty.
9. Are you embarrassed to be so beautiful?
10. I’d use a line on you, but I’m too intimidated by your beauty.
11. You know, it’s girls like you that make me want to be a lesbian.
12. If I were stranded on an island, I’d bring only this drink and you.

Pickup Lines about Money

Pointing out you’re a big spender or have a little money to throw around is never a bad idea. If you don’t have a whole lot of extra cash, pretending you do or making fun of the notion you do can score points, too. Don’t wear out this tactic, though.

1. Hello. I’m rich and I don’t believe in pre-nups.
2. My parents willed me $10,000,000 on the grounds I marry by this weekend. Can I buy you a drink?
3. Couldn’t you help me reach the maximum on my credit cards?
4. Do you eat? I’d like to buy you dinner.
5. Hey, wanna arm wrestle for a quarter?
6. I’m not free, but I am cheap. How about you?
7. I’m not actually this tall. I’m sitting on my wallet.

Pickup Lines and Innuendos

Innuendos can be funny, or they can be horrific. Some women get offended if you come on too strong or get too personal. If you do this, know it’s a numbers game and don’t worry about the bad reactions. The worst crime is trying one of these and falling flat on your face. Be funny, or try something else.

1. Wow! Nice pair of…shoes.
2. Am I one of the things to pick up on your list today?
3. If I had HIV, would you have sex with me? (She says “No”) Well, I don’t, so let’s go.
4. Were you staring at my crotch.

Pickup Lines for Models and Actresses

Situational pickup lines sound unrehearsed and improvised, so if you have a few lines for odd situations, that’s a good idea. Try to tailor them to fit situations where they might be appropriate, but don’t go too far trying to do this. Here are several examples below, though there are all kinds of pickup lines by professional or setting. Use these as examples, and find the humor in whatever situation you find yourself in.

1. Is modeling as much work as it looks?
2. You probably recognize me from my underwear ads.
3. I’m sure I’ve seen you in another film.
4. My mom warned me about girls like you, but I don’t care.

Pickup Lines for Co-Workers

1. You are definitely the reason I came here tonight.
2. If you don’t know me, you’re welcome to fill out an application.
3. You look familiar. Didn’t we go to different schools at the same time?
4. Doesn’t someone know you from somewhere.

Pickup Lines to Use on Nurses

1. Sorry for standing so close, but I seem to be allergic to everyone else.
2. I’ve got to sit down. You’re making my knees weak.
3. Can I check your heartbeat?
4. I hope you know CPR, because you’re making my heart race.
5. They say love is the only medicine for a broken heart.

I’m So Vain – Pickup Quotes

Men playing against type can be comedic and attractive. Using lines a woman might think or a woman might say can be funny.

The only reason you don’t recognize me is that I’m the faceless lover in your dreams.

1. If I didn’t have this heart condition, I’d make you an offer you couldn’t refuse.
2. You remind me of my dead ex-girlfriend. (This one can go anywhere…)
3. As a matter of fact, I am God’s gift to women.
4. Must you stare?
5. I’m more than just a pretty face.

Negs – Negative Pickup Lines

The “neg” is the negative comment, meant to puncture a woman’s ego, shock her into wanting your approaches (reverse psychology, in a way) and set her up for moves later. The idea of the neg is taught by Mystery, the pickup artist who pioneered the field.

Here’s the idea: a woman is used to getting compliments from men. They are used to getting unconditional approval. When you give them a backhanded compliment or a negative pickup line, you immediately stand out from the crowd – your approval is conditional. You show you’re a challenge. You present them with a situation they aren’t used to. Suddenly, they go from “who does he think he is” to “who is he” to “what do I have to do to get his approval”.

Watch out, though – the neg is a risky proposition. You’re going to offend some women. You’re going to piss some off. You’re likely to get negative blowback, so you need a thick skin and a willingness to put you in a negative situation. The real talent with the neg is to be able to turn it around, depending on her reaction. A good seduction artist can react both to a positive and a negative reaction to the neg.

1. You’re so flat you make the walls jealous.
2. I’d like to screw your brains out, but it seems someone’s already beat me to it.
3. That outfit must make a lot of noise in the dryer.
4. I’m a sweet guy, and you clearly must have a taste for sweets.
5. I thought I’d come over and give you self-esteem a boost.
6. Can I buy you a drink, or do you just want the money?
7. That outfit is really ugly. You should take it off immediately.

25 Smile Pick Up Lines (How to Compliment a Girl’s Smile)

Openers with Women about Smiles

There aren’t quite as many pickup lines about smiles as you would think. Below are some of the best of a longer list that included some real bombs and losers.  Always remember that merely complimenting a girl about her smile is not the same as making her feel special and attractive.  Focus on what gives her that great quality and let the conversation go where it will.

A beautiful smile could mean she is already interested in you. Don’t overdo it by ignoring the obvious signs of interest she may be sending off. Girls rarely give you a bright, beautiful smile if they want you to go away. On the other hand, if she is not smiling then you have to get her to smile in some reasonable way. Using smile chat up lines at the wrong time kills your chances. You may have to open up the conversation with something that brings out that beautiful smile.

And remember: the best compliment for a smile is a genuine smile back. Your smile can be a little bit reserved or sardonic but you don’t want to come off like an idiot. Nor do you want to seem insincere or insecure. Don’t be afraid to reward her smile with a warm smile of your own. She’ll take that as the genuine compliment it is.

There are plenty of openers about a woman’s smile along the same lines, about how beautiful her smile is, but these can be pretty cliche. I used well over 10 resources and only came up with the following openings, one-liners, and pickups.

Smile Pickup Lines — How to Compliment Her Smile

1. Is that smile patented?
2. Hey, don’t frown – you’ll never know who might be falling in love with your smile.
3. So you floss!
4. Show me your overbite.
5. The Sun turns pale at your smile.
6. Your smile could sell a half-million magazine covers.
7. Did the sun come out or did you just smile at me?
8. You have the most beautiful smile in the world, and I’d like to celebrate this point with you.
9. Hey, don’t I know you? Yeah, you’re the girl with the beautiful smile.
10. Do you bleach your teeth? ‘Cause your smile lights up the entire room like a candle in the dark. Let’s go prove it.
11. Should I smile because we are friends, or cry because I know that is what we will ever be?
12. How many words can you make out of the word “smile”? (I, Me, I’m, Lie, Mile, Lime, Slime)
13. You have the whitest teeth I’ve ever seen.
14. Smile, it can’t be that bad.
15. Are you smiling at me or do I have my contacts in wrong?
16. Your smile is like sunshine.

Pick-Up Line Angle About Smiles

Once you have a woman smiling, you can take your smile pickup lines in a number of different directions. The following is one of those you’ll find online in one form or another, but it’s not a bad approach. Play around with the concept to make it your own.

Once a woman smiles, you can run this routine. It’s best used once you’ve established that you’re a cool guy, and you know you’re quite attractive to her: “Hey, you know…you have three smiles.” She’ll probably ask a follow-up question. If she does, say the following line: “Yeah, that was your ‘I’m flattered’ smile, and then you have a, um – not fake – but a polite smile…then there’s this really genuine smile when you laugh, and your whole face lights up. Then there’s this smug, ‘hey this guy digs me’ smile. I’ve a feeling I might see that a lot.”

More Pickups Lines about Smiles

1. If you prefer the quick quip or comment, then here’s a few openers that are a little less involved. With a couple of dozen pickup lines on the subject of “smiles” and “smiling”, I hope you find a good opener for your bar act, seduction methods, or personal style of picking up girls.
2. Smile if you’re sexy!
3. Smile if you want me!
4. Hey, where did your smile go? (Check back pocket) Here it is!
5. I’m on smile patrol. You’ve exceeded the smile speed patrol.
6. I have had a really bad day and it always makes me feel better to see a pretty girl smile. So, would you smile for me?
7. If I could reach out and hold a star for every time you’ve made me smile, I’d hold the sky in the palm of my hand.
8. I’ll buy you a drink every time you smile at ME tonight. (Better bring your credit card)
9. Excuse me, you have a sensuous overbite.
10. Love your smile.

25 Eye Compliments (How to Compliment a Girl on Her Eyes)

Compliments about Eyes

Pickup lines about eyes are a pretty specific subject, but the most common compliment men make to a woman tends to be about either her eyes or her smile. That means the casual pickup artist wants to go into a social setting armed with a few compliments and pickup lines about a girl’s eyes. These need to stand out, because of how common it is for a guy to say how pretty a woman’s eyes are. Use a line she hasn’t heard before, or you might as well be commenting about the weather.

When you compliment her eyes, you want it to sound as sincere as possible.  Being sincere is the easiest way to sound sincere.  If you don’t see something sparkle in the girl’s eyes then you should hold off on the compliment until her mood improves or she becomes more excited.  Eye compliments work best when they are natural and as unrehearsed as possible.  But that doesn’t mean they can’t be memorized and used as required.

Pickup lines about eyes should be attention getting in the best way.  Intrigue her by letting her know that her eyes intrigue you.  If she is interested in you she wants to know that her interest is reciprocated.  If she is not interested in you then save the eyes compliment until you have sparked that interest.  Using compliments about eyes is one of the oldest tricks in the book and, frankly, most girls hear them long before you come along.  You’re treading a very muddy path that has been trampled by plenty of guys before you.

How to compliment a girl about her eyes is not just about remembering the cool things you can say.  It’s about recognizing a special quality that the girl will really appreciate.  Complimenting a girl on her eyes is best done when her eyes wake up to the situation and let you know she is open to sincere flattery.  But your flattery should hold something back.  Don’t just start worshiping her.

One-Liners about Eyes – Pickup Lines about Her Eyes

1. You know what? Your eyes are the same color as my Porsche.
2. I’ve been looking at your eyes all night long, because I’ve never seen such dark eyes with so much light in them.
3. Your eyes are as dark as a castle moat by midnight. Lower your drawbridge and let me cross.
4. If you were a tear in my eye, I wouldn’t cry for fear of losing you.
5. Your eyes glow like the twin suns. (Use “binary stars” if you’re in astronomy class, or both of you are geeky.)
6. If I were a tear drop I would be born in your eyes, live on your cheeks, and die on your lips.
7. I bet it was hard for God to make your eyes out of crystal clear ocean water.
8. Either those are your eyes, or you managed to make a contact lens made out of gem stones.
9. I don’t know if you’re beautiful or not, I haven’t gotten past your eyes yet.
10. Your eyes are as blue as my toilet water at home.
11. Your eyes are blue, like the ocean. And baby, I’m lost at sea.
12. Do you remember Crayola Crayons? They used to have this color: Blizzard Blue. It was my favorite color and I could never figure out why. But I just realized why, your eyes: Blizzard Blue.
13. When I look into your eyes, it is like a gateway into the world of which I want to be a part.
14. (For woman with blue eyes): I think God took the color out of the ocean and put it in your eyes.
15. (For woman with green eyes): I think God took the pigment out of a leaf and put it in your eyes.
16. (For woman with brown eyes): I think God took a brown topaz gem and made you eyes out of it.
17. (Say this one with a smile): You know at this angle as the lights hit your eyes, (as you start fixing your hair) I can see myself and I look great.
18. Is your Dad an astronaut? Because someone took the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes.
19. Do you have a map? I keep getting lost in your eyes. Can you give me directions? I’ve seemed to have lost myself in your eyes.
20. I don’t know which is prettier today, the water, the sky or your eyes.
21. I wasn’t sure if you were a beautiful angel or a sexy devil, but now that I’m close I see heaven in your eyes.
22. They say the eyes are the mirror to the soul. You must have one beautiful soul.

Pickup Lines about Your Eyes

These might not be exactly what you’re looking for, but I thought I’d include them anyway – just in case. In these quips and pickup lines, your eyes become props in your attempt to seduce. I don’t necessarily suggest you use the first two, unless you are talking to a pretty salty woman, but I think the third joke is pretty darned funny.

1. You got something on your chest: my eyes.
2. Hey baby, you’ve got something on your butt: my eyes.
3. Hi, I’ve been undressing you with my eyes all night long, and think it’s time to see if I’m right.

Okay, so those last few are some pretty cheesy pickup lines. But it’s fun to look at lame pickup lines every once in a while, too. Keep reading for more great pickup lines, and I hope one of these pickups line about eyes help you get the woman of your dreams – or at least your daydreams.